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第二部分 对症下药,逐一对付

10.气恼

容易气恼,这算是罪吗? 这不是人人都免不了有的小缺点吗? 许多时侯,我们气恼, 只因为别人说了一些我们不喜欢听的话,或做了一些不合我们心意的事。


圣经多次记载法利赛人对耶稣的话不服,结果引致非常严重的后果。耶稣在祂的故乡拿撒勒讲道时,那些人同样不服气,于是把耶稣带到城外,想把祂推下悬崖,可见气恼会带来多么严重的后果。


在日常生活中,因气恼而造成的悲剧,真是不胜枚举。两口子本来相亲相爱,却因为一方气恼了,不能心平气和的讨论问题,互相指斥对方的不是,结果使婚姻破裂。许多儿童对父母或师长失去信心,也是因为他们动辄就向孩子乱发脾气。我们若心浮气躁,同样会令同事们工作得不开心。总之,气恼会导致无可补救的后果。


为什么我们会气恼呢? 因为我们并没有与神的旨意联合, 彷佛每件事情我们都看不过眼。事情一不合我们心意,或者觉得别人的要求太过份,又或者别人的请求扰乱了我们的计划......我们就气恼难平,却不知道人给我们的烦扰,事无大小,其实都是神亲自放在我们生命中的。我们烦躁不满就是反抗神,令神难过。


事实上,许多时我们对人、对环境、对事情不满,起因其实是我们过于自大,要样样事情都照我们认为最正确、最轻易的方法去做,别人的意见都被我们一口否定了。


这种暴躁跟气恼同样是罪。气恼较为激烈,但不是持久的,暴躁却会成为一种习惯,连说话也是粗声大气的。暴躁的人不晓得自己已成为撇但的工具,被牠利用来破坏爱与和平,而我们也和耶稣的意愿相违,因为祂的意愿就是——“你们若有彼此相爱的心,众人因此就认出你们是我的门徒了。” (约 13 :35 )


以弗所书四章二十九节说:“污秽的言语,一句不可出口,只要随时说造就人的好话,叫听见的人得益处。”这就是说,我们不单要说造就人的话,还要排解纷争,但若果我们气恼,又怎能说出造就人的话呢? 所以,我们必须摆脱这罪,以免在言语和行为上羞辱主的名。


当我们气恼的时侯,会板起脸孔斥责人,令自己旣不快乐,又没意思。神的国是满有平安和喜乐的,生气的人不能进到那里,因此,我们必须胜过气恼的罪,不要让自己受情绪控制,动辄生气。


许多时侯,我们会找借口为自己辩护,推说由于精神紧张,或工作过度才会生气。其实,我们气恼与工作过劳无关,这些都不过是导火线罢了,真正气恼的原因是因为我们的罪。我们不可再找借口来饶恕自己,应该向神悔改,求祂赦免我们的罪。


最重要的,是认识到在我们眼中看为无关重要的毛病,其实都是罪,必须将它们矫正过来。我们知道这一点,就会把这些罪带到主的面前,靠着祂救赎和宝血的大能,胜过我们的罪。


这样,当我们再次生气的时,就会觉得羞愧,知道我们又一次伤了主的心,破坏了神的国。我们必须遵行耶稣的话 :“悔改! 从罪中转过来,不要给这罪恶留地步! "


当我们发觉自己快要生气的时候, 要格外小心,并且认真对付它,对自己说 :“我要面对这种事、这个人和这些说话,因为知道这都是神的安排、神的计划。”我们这样开解自己,怒气自然会平息。


如果我们一时控制不住,在言语间流露出我们的不满,就要立刻认罪,求神赦兔。我们要对罪敏感,恨恶罪,为自己所犯的罪难过,我们才会来到神面前,向祂认罪。


同时,我们也要有实际的行动,表示悔改,向得罪过的人道歉,求他宽恕。只要我们肯放下自己的心意,顺服神的带领,靠着救主的宝血,凭信心与罪争战,我们就会得着释放,不再动辄气恼了。

You Will Never Be the Same
Dr. Basilea Schlink

PART TWO: Individual Sins 

Being Annoyed: Irritability


Being annoyed! Can that really be a sin? Or is it merely a slight personality flaw, which anyone could afford to have? Annoyance usually stems from being offended when people say or do things that do not suit us. Scripture tells us what this can lead to. In several places it is written that people "took offence" at Jesus (Matt. 15: 57, also Matt. 15: 12). 


They began with "mere" annoyance, but what terrible consequences this can have! The people of His home town also took offence. Then they led Him out of the town and tried to put Him to death by pushing Him off a cliff (Luke 4: 29). Such annoyance was the cause of great suffering for Jesus and great guilt for men. Today too, annoyance has similar effects.


So often in everyday life we see the alarming results of this seemingly harmless sin. How often is a relationship of love disturbed, because someone gets annoyed? Then we begin to wrong each other. That can happen in many different ways. For instance, many marriages have gone on the rocks, because one of the marriage partners was always annoyed whenever they had anything to discuss.


Peace was disturbed. Every objective discussion was made impossible and they could no longer approach each other in love. Often, for this reason, children have lost their confidence in their parents or teachers, who were always annoyed with them. And we make our colleagues at work feel unhappy when we are continually annoyed. They no longer feel like working. By being annoyed, we can destroy things that we cannot make amends for.


Why do we get annoyed? Because we are not at one with the will of God. That is why everything that does not suit us upsets us. We object to everything. Or demands are made on us which we think are too much. Or someone's request upsets our intentions and we react with annoyance. But we do not realize that all things, large and small, that come from people, are actually placed in our daily lives by God.


When we get upset, we rebel against God and grieve Him. And why do we get annoyed at people, at situations and conditions? Because our ego or our self-will is so big. Everything has to go the way we intended, the way we think is right, the way that is easiest for us. Every wish, opinion or mistake that others make meets with our opposition.


This annoyance or irritation is just as dangerous and sinful as anger. Anger seems to be more uncouth. But usually it only comes over us every once in a while. People who tend to be annoyed are almost always annoyed. Indeed, they even get into the habit of talking this way. They have no idea that they have become instruments of Satan, who wants to destroy peace and the fellowship of love. Then he will reach his goal and we will be acting against the very wishes of Jesus; "By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another" (John 13: 35).


Scripture says; "Let no evil talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for edifying, as fits the occasion, that it may impart grace to those who hear" (Eph. 4: 29). That is, we should speak that which will do others good and serve to bring peace. But annoyance only brings about the opposite, and for this reason we have to become free from it. Otherwise we are a disgrace to Jesus through our words and reactions.


When we are annoyed, our faces are sullen and we reproach others. Annoyance hinders joy and ruins life together. But the Kingdom of Jesus Christ is a kingdom of joy and peace. Annoyance does not fit in. 


Therefore, it has to be overcome; it cannot have any more room in our lives.


We often try to make excuses for being annoyed. We say it is due to weak nerves or because we are "down". But irritation and annoyance come from our evil hearts and ultimately do not have anything to do with fatigue or weak nerves. Having weak nerves or being overworked just brings out what is really deep down in our hearts. When we get into such situations, we have no reason to excuse ourselves or even to pity ourselves. But we have every reason to repent and to call upon the name of Jesus. In this way we will be set free from these evil things that come from our hearts, are expressed by our tongues and disrupt the peace.


The most important thing is to recognize that annoyance-along with many other sinful ailments that we usually do not count as sin-is really a sin. It must disappear from our lives. Once we recognize this, we will rely upon Jesus' redemption and His blood, which contains healing for every sin. Then we will bring this sin to Him. Then we will become ashamed whenever we become annoyed, because we know that we are making Jesus sad and that we are becoming guilty by destroying some of His kingdom. Then we must follow Jesus' call: "Repent!" Turn away from this path of yours, do not give annoyance any more room!


This has to happen when we become conscious of our first annoyed thought. Then we have to proceed against it immediately and counter it by saying: God has ordained this. This situation, this word, this person, or whatever it may be, was actually sent to me by God. It is part of His plan. Then annoyance loses its power. And if it should escape us in a critical situation and explode in our speech, let us ask forgiveness immediately. 


Hating sin and being sorry for it drive us to settle accounts with God every night and tell Him when we are annoyed. If we call upon Jesus to forgive us, we must also be ready to repent concretely, to ask people whom we have grieved for forgiveness, if we have not already done so. Practising this surrender of our wills to the will of God in everyday situations and fighting the battle of faith by praising the blood of Jesus, which always sets us free, will lead to release from this sin as well.